Property compromises to save your partnership

Searching for your first or next home is rarely a straightforward journey for any couple.

There will always be differences of opinion on the practicality and attractiveness of any property.

The key to a successful home-hunt is listening to your partner’s point of view, respectfully expressing your opinions, and then finding a compromise.

Many couples struggle to decide whether they want an apartment, condo or a detached house.

Generally it’s rare for a couple to have a blazing row on the sidewalk about whether to buy the apartment or the ranch outside of town. And that’s because they already tend to share the same vision, but with slightly different emphases.

These ideas will help you bring different perspectives together so your search will align with each other’s expectations. 

Listen

There’s no more important role in this conversation than listening to your partner. It may be a good idea to note down their deal-breakers and desires to ensure any future walk-throughs are organized with these factors in mind.

Share

You have a right to your opinions, too. When searching for a property, it helps to appreciate there’s no right or wrong, only opinions based on likes and dislikes. Be open and honest but avoid making your opinions comparative to your partner’s feelings. Most of all, be specific.

Communicate

There are many ways to communicate the type of property you desire. For example, you can send specific properties you’ve seen online via email or a chat platform. On sites such as Zillow, you can share your search. These strategies help bring into focus the types of property you want.

Honesty

Being economical with your truth isn’t a great idea. If you have specific concerns, such as commuting distance, you must talk about these. Finding a home your partner loves but you hate is not a compromise.

Wish list

An excellent way to focus your property search is to develop a wish list of “must-haves” and “nice-to-haves”. Building out that list with “deal-breakers” and “flexible” needs is good in times of disagreement.

The future

Important conversations about property should always consider your future together. If you’re a young couple and want children, then a family home and all its necessary features should be considered.

Budget

Sometimes, it’s worth reworking your budget to afford a home that will please you both. If you have to spend a little more, the sacrifice will be worthwhile.